How special is your wedding day? It only happens once!
Have you ever done something special so many times that it kinda loses it’s “special” factor? If so, that probably means you are doing it too often and/or taking it for granted.
I first noticed this happening when we started to do too many “special” things with Jayden. That sounds bad, doesn’t it? Let me explain, mini-golfing, bowling, movies, going out for ice-cream, picking out a redbox, purchasing a new toy, having sleepovers, etc., are considered “special” things to do in our household. In other words, the don’t happen everyday. Over the summer I noticed that the more things we did the less thankful Jayden became. It was almost as if our “special” things were not special anymore.
To try and put this into an adult perspective imagine one of your favorite things to do that you don’t do very often because of one reason or another. Now picture doing it 4-5 times a week. After about a month or so I can almost guarantee that your once favorite thing to do is now something you just like to do. I absolutely love to shop. Buy things? Nope. But I could go to the mall, an outlet center or a small European street and walk around for hours checking out the shops (my husband finds this so odd and can’t stand it). I probably do this maybe once or twice a month. If I did this everyday, it would get so old so fast. In fact, as much as I enjoy it I wouldn’t even want to do it once or twice a week.
You will hear many married men and women with children talk about how important and special date night is. Just think about why it is so special to you and it’s easy to understand what I mean when I say too much of a special thing leads to the disappearance of the “special” factor!
What is something special you and your family do together? Remember why it is special and continue to make it special so it doesn’t get taken for granted!
I would like to wish my amazing husband a happy 2 months of marriage!
>Look at me writing about marriage tips when we haven’t even been married for a month yet! After 5 years with someone and 4 years living with them, you kinda get to know what works in a relationship and what doesn’t. And one thing that will always work is date night.
After having Jayden, Adam and I didn’t go on date night very often. I nursed Jayden for his first year of life so at times I felt like I wasn’t able to leave his side for more than a couple hours (I didn’t have enough supply to pump and I wasn’t willing to supplement with formula when I could simply go home and feed him). But since Jayden has grown and Adam and I have worked on what keeps our relationship as strong as possible, we have made a pack to establish a bi-weekly date night. It is my favorite time of the month. Now date night doesn’t have to be anything too special like a fancy dinner and dancing; for Adam and I it usually consists of dinner and maybe a little shopping at Pottery Barn or Target (I know, we’re really cool). But there are those times we like to get dolled up and hit the town!
Last night Adam and I went to see Barefoot Truth in concert. They were amazing! Great music, great vibe and even better lyrics. We had such a great time! Check them out!
So the moral to this post is to schedule a weekly, bi-weekly or monthly date night. Keep the spark in your marriage alive. Get away from the children and enjoy your husband or wife!
I can’t believe we are finally married!
Any time we meet a new couple it is certain that we swap our “How We Met” stories. Well… our story isn’t your typical, “We had a class in college together…” and so on. In fact, I believe I was 13 years old when Adam was off to college. It all started one summer when my mom sent myself and a few of my close friends to basketball camp. I loved basketball when I was younger. I was always the tallest girl out there and could hang with all the boys. Adam, his brother, couple best friends and high school basketball coach were the counselors. As soon as Adam was introduced I had a totally crush on him (yes, at 12 years old you can think boys are cute)! And to be honest, he was totally flirting with me! At the end of the second day, all the counselors picked their “pretend wives!” It was so funny and believe it or not, Adam said told everyone that I was going to be his pretend wife for the week. I remember to this day how gitty I was! Skip a few days and at the end of the week I had broken my wrist (Adam had scared me while I was running backwards and I fell) and on Friday he had signed my cast, “My Future Wife! Best wishes and good luck, Adam Harrington.” He was 18 years old at the time and I was 12. I still have the cast to prove it.
Fast forward a little less and 10 years and bam! we have an adorable son and just tied the knot. I can’t even begin to describe how blessed I am to have Adam as my husband. I can promise you that God put us on this earth to be together. There is no doubt in my mind. I am forever grateful for September 4, 2010!
(The photographer took 1200 photos so it may be a while until we get them back to share with everyone)!